Whether you’re with a one-night stand or years into a relationship, sometimes you have the insatiable urge to feel connected to your partner during sex — extra connected. Luckily, there are many ways to do that. For example, a 2017 study found that saying “I love you” during sex can make partners feel emotionally connected (though this would be very awkward during a one-night stand), as well as other things like eye contact, breathing in sync, and practicing mindfulness. While all these things can take intimacy to a whole new level, they’re not the only things.
A 2018 survey of 994 people ages 18 to 74 by Superdrug Online Doctor found that when it comes to feeling connected to a partner, sex position plays a big role.
“Sex can be the perfect conduit to build intimacy between a couple because it addresses both the emotional and physical aspects of intimacy. Skin-to-skin contact allows for the release of the ‘bonding’ hormone oxytocin and helps you build trust — an important component of intimacy,” relationship and sex expert Dr. Kat Van Kirk tells Bustle. “Emotionally, sex can help you learn to open up and become vulnerable with your partner by being willing to try new things and discuss sensitive topics related to your sexuality.”
The respondents consisted of 49% women, 51% men, and less than one percent that didn’t identify as either. While the group was primarily heterosexual, many of these positions can be used or adapted to bodies of all kinds.
Below, eight positions that are ideal for feeling closer to your partner. What makes people feel emotionally intimate varies from person to person, but if you’re looking to inject more connection into your sex life, these positions just might do the trick.